Well, I'm dropping another thread on the teenagers (adults, please share your input--please avoid the rude comments regarding dating, though). What are your feelings regarding "dating"? People define dating in several different ways--it's a fun night out with a person or people that you may or may not have interest in, it's a steady relationship with someone you're interested in, or something you only do when you're positive that you've found the guy or girl for you (I don't quite understand the latter, but it seems to be gaining numbers in the Christian world). Teenagers, how old were you when you started dating steadily? What was your most memorable date? If you do not date, how come?

I have never dated steadily, and my most memorable date in question was probably the 8th grade farewell dance at the middle school. It was memorable because my date kept hopping around to dance with other girls :P As for why I don't date, I don't really know--well, actually, I do. I could complain about my less-than-worthy physical attributes all day (seeing as that's what seems to make up the typical high school couple--good looks), but when it comes down to it, I avoid dating and attachments to boys especially because I'm worried about the prospect that a relationship might fail, or that I might be wasting my time on a loser in disguise.

Well? Have you anything to say, 'eh, comrades?

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In high school, I dated a lot of girls from different schools. Allen Park...Woodhaven...Taylor...I think I even dated one from Wyandotte (a Cardinal sin at the time). There was too much drama associated with dating people from my school.

Though I did go out with a few girls from LP. They never really lasted very long. It would start out with passing notes back and forth in class...then escalate to walking/driving them home...then end with me taking them out to dinner and a movie. After that, we were a bona fide "couple". For the next two weeks.

Enjoy dating while you're still in school. Once you're in the real world...the whole thing changes. You meet people that you don't really know. You end taking them out. Over dinner, in a public place, you get a glimpse of who they are. If you discover that you have no interest in them...you're stuck plotting your escape route for the entire evening. I've found that the best way to do this is to tell a buddy to call you at a certain time. If the date is going poorly...you answer the phone and fake an emergency. "What?! Tommy is where?! Yeah...I remember that time he bailed me out...I'll be there in 30 minutes."

Of course...if the date is going well...you just let the call go to voicemail. If she asks who it was...tell her it's some girl that you don't talk to anymore. Chics dig competition.

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Hey Puff, I am not sure how old you are but I was not allowed to date until I was 16. For me it worked out I put my energy towards other things. You said that your date kept hopping around the dance floor and that is why you don't date. Don't let that discourage you, there are plenty of decent guys who do know how to treat a girl. The key is to know YOUR worth and not settle for anything less. Dating can be a fun experience. When a guy that you date does something unacceptable, like disrespecting you at a dance, well then that is his loss and you just learned what you will not tolerate from a person. You have to take dating as an experience, a time when you are getting to know yourself. To never share yourself with another person because of a fear that you might be let down would be cutting yourself short for you will never know true love. A broken heart can be a blessing in disguise, you could come out of a dating relationship or a committed long term relationship stronger than you were before which I believe can lead to happieness with the "right" one. As far as your comment about complaining about your less than worthy physical attributes haven't you ever heard that "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". You have to know that you are beautiful inside and out before another person can. I think I rambled enough, I wish you luck in the dating world!!!

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I'm seventeen; I always heard that "You can't date until you're sixteen" mumbo-jumbo, and that year in my life passed by quite uneventfully. I think there might be such a thing as true love out there, but then there's the cynicism that says it's just a crock of crap. I don't date because no one's interested--not that that's necessarily a bad thing, because maybe at some point in college someone will be interested. Lincoln Park doesn't have much to offer in the way of boys. I'm sure the boys think the same of the girls.

But what about the teenagers? Come on, Mandie--I know YOU'RE dating. Do tell about it!

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My mother always told me when I was younger that I was not allowed to date until I was 16. I was not allowed to have boys come over or call my house or go over their house until I was 16 years old. I started dating at 15. When I moved in with my dad, he kind of curved all of my moms rules. He hadnt been there for me when I was younger and he felt guilty so he let me reign free. I had the same boyfriend for three and a half years on and off until one tragic day in my life when he decided I was not good enough for him to date anymore. He was not the best influence and was not the best boyfriend but he was mine. When I started dating my current boyfriend I was scared out of my mind. I have known him since I was 7 and I was scared it would end in heartache. I took a chance and Im still with him. Sometimes chances are the best time that could happen to a person.

Dating can be defined special to every person. It is an intimate relationship that requires love and dedication. Cherish every oppurtunity you have

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I am not allowed to date until 16, but I am more intrested in school so that I can get into a college to really focus on boys. I really don't care either because there are not a lot of guys that catch my attention as interesting .

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I think I started "dating" (If that's what you wanna call it) when I was in 7th grade. Going to movies with some boy from school, buying him a christmas present, etc.
I met my husband in high school tho. We dated when I was 15, he was 18. We split up for about 9 months, and got back together, I've been with him ever since.

I have to say I'm very happy, and so high school sweethearts can and do live happily ever after. We've had our bumps, but as we grew older we just got better and better at being a couple. Now, 14 years later, there's probably not much of anything that could get between us.

My advice is not to worry so much about your status. The best things happen when you're not looking for them. Get to know yourself, and whatever will be will be. That's my philosophy.

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In 9th grade I was a real nerd, not a chance of dating anyone because I was shy, introverted and lacked self confidence. In 10th grade I changed my life by changing my attitude about myself.

My best friend was the best looking guy in school and had no problems dating or making friends and I watched him all through 9th grade and that following summer and I used him as a model to learn from. Wow! It worked!

I found self esteem and that allowed me to date a lot of different girls. I became popular and one of the in crowd, just by finding confidence in myself and the way I looked (my appearance). In fact I have been in Sales, meeting new people every day, for my entire career.

I have never considered myself good looking but I enjoy talking with people and learned that the key to relationships at any level is first to be a good listener. Find a common interest and then go from there.

My advice is to date and socialize with a lot of different people, enjoy your youth - get all you can out of it because once you start working and supporting yourself the opportunity you have now is gone. You can wait to find true love later in life. Take advantage of your youth and have fun.

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Well, I look at dating this way

First, what's the pupose of dating?

To find someone to eventually marry?

So, if that's the purpose would or does it make any sense to date if you're not in a position or going to be in a position some time soon to get married?

What happens once you start to really have feeling for the person you date?

Then you may want to get intimate, which according to today's standards are ok, but really isn't

Why, because of so many obvious reasons, of which one is the possibility of children

My advice is this, don't worry about dating

Just enjoy your time being young without complications

You'll have plenty of time later on to date when you're a bit older

Then when you older, more mature, and in a position to get married, then start dating if you find the right person

And, as someone said earlier, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"

The person inside is without doubt the most important thing

No matter how good looking a person may be, if they have a rotten attitude the relationship won't last, if there's ever a relationship at all

In the meantime of finding that special person though, learn to be happy with yourself

From what I see from your postings you already seem like a beautiful person to me

I'm sure someone else will feel the same when the right time comes

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I dont think dating has to lead up to marriage. Its good to experience different relationships with different people. To date one person your whole life can be awesome and such an experience but so can experiencing with different people. Sometimes you need to look around to figure out who you really belong with and what type of person you need to spend the rest of your life with.

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