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The Art of Standing Up to Adults
Obviously, this is not a call to those who think that kicking back keggers when they're teenagers is "standing" up to adults (in reality, it's rebelling against them). Teenagers receive a lot of unnecessary backlash (though the same can be said about a lot of groups). The apparent divide between teenagers and elders is the most confusing to me. Yesterday on the news (I think it was 4), the reporters were in a shelter after the Romulus chemical plant blast. An elderly woman was there with her husband and stated: "Everyone has been so nice, even the teenagers." Now, I'm not only going to bring up the apparent battle between these two age groups. Why is it that adults feel they have every right in the world to say anything they wish to those who are teenagers (and younger)? I stuck up for myself on these boards quite recently, though that's a matter already spoken on. Teens, how do YOU feel when adults try to manipulate or speak condescendingly to you (when it serves no purpose to correct, but rather, to gain some form of power over you)? I can guarantee that I would get different results in certain situations if only I were a little more advanced in age. I've had people cut in front of me at the gas station before- "Oh, she's just a blonde teenager, she's not going to do anything." Not the middle-aged guy in front of me, not the grandmotherly woman in front of me--in front of ME. Speak out, teens. Tell me about how YOU'VE stood up to unfair adults in your lifetime. |
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Re: The Art of Standing Up to Adults
It stinks. It really does. Adults can say anything they want to you, whether it be rude, arroagnt, or immature and none of their peers look down on them for it. If we say something to another teenager, the nearest adult scorns us and makes the very popular "ughh" sound. My way of dealing with this has not always been the best. I am a very truthful person (you know this Puff). I do not care who you are or whether I hurt your feelings. If you ask me a question I will tell you the truth, no matter who you are. I do not care. I think that everyone should know what other people think of them. I would rather someone come up to me and tell me what they thought me then going around spreading what they thought about me to all their friends just so it would get back to me. I would want the person to come right up to me and tell me just what they thought. I am also respectful. I give respect and expect it back. If I do not recieve the same respect back then I voice my opinion about it. I have told adults how rude and inconsiderate they were being and I have told them how much worse they are than us "teenagers" for setting the bad example. We do look up to them and when they do nothing but scold us for things half of us do not do, how do they think that makes us feel and think? Judging teenagers by the acts of a select few is just liking judging the whole African American race by the acts of a select few. Its not right now is it? Its even illegal to practice that bad judgement against a group of people. Just because one teenager tags up a wall doesnt mean all of us do it. I have done bad things in my past, yes. Do I regret them, you bet. But that does not mean I am going around all over town spraypainting trains and shooting someone for walking on my property. Some teenagers do it, that is their lives. They are the ones that will be in jail being charged for the rest of their lives. We as teenagers should not be judged by the ones you hear about. There are good teenagers in this world. We have accomplishments and dreams and goals just like an "good" adult would. We are shaping ourselves into adults so we can try and make this world a little bit better of a place to live in. Judging our every move and how a few of us act does not help anything. Now I am not saying all adults do this, some dont. But for those of you that do, thats what I think about it.
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Re: The Art of Standing Up to Adults
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Agreed. I can't say that I have anything I particularly regret (aside from small things--heh, what? Cutting in the lunch line in elementary school? :P). I don't smoke (nor have I ever). I have never been out past curfew. I have never been a drinker. I was never the one to tease anybody, either. I've used spraypaint about twice in my entire life--to spray down a bench in m backyard, and to spray this King Tut puzzle-esque sort of thing gold because my dad asked me to. I have always been on the Honor Roll. I have never talked back to a teacher (let alone dreamed of it!). I have always been very polite and courteous to adults (if for nothing more than the fact that they are adults). However, it seems like I see more and more adults abusing that position of authority with rash decisions--and it's incredibly annoying when aforementioned rash decisions are accompanied by an unbreakable ego. It seems no one can stand to be corrected by a teenager, even when they are wrong. I have humility and am willing to concede when I know that I'm wrong. Sometimes the case is not so clear and falls into a shaded gray area where either I or the adult in the situation might be wrong, and I would still apologize. I just wish that other people would take on that trait. Many times around yourlincolnpark.com I've unintentionally given incorrect information and been corrected. I'm not going to let my ego puff (Heh heh) up. Veritas corrected me once on the state of the economy and I said simply, "Oops. You're right. I'm ," and that was the end of it. I would expect him or any other adult (don't worry, Veritas--you haven't done anything wrong. Just usin' ya as an example, buddy) to do the same if they were in my shoes. |
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Re: The Art of Standing Up to Adults
I can't tell you teenagers enough on how Happy I am and many others are as well, that you shed light on to things affecting our teenagers. I certainly believe that teenagers as a whole get a bad rap. You teenagers rock and your input is very much appreciated. It helps to understand from both sides!!!! RAH RAH
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Re: The Art of Standing Up to Adults
Not all adults are rude to teenagers and not all teenagers are rude to adults. I enjoy the company of my nieces and nephews and our conversations are insightful for both sides. Some people are just rude regardless of age. I think that the teenagers here give us older people a fresh look at some old topics.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "I'm sick and tired of hearing things from uptight, short sighted, narrow minded hypocrites. All I want is the truth, Just gimme some truth" - John Lennon |
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Re: The Art of Standing Up to Adults
Agreed. I guess it's moreso of a given that you're going to encounter rude teenagers, what with their stereotypical angst. Adults being rude (especially in a more professional setting) is a little bit more shocking of a case. |
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Re: The Art of Standing Up to Adults
Be firm but polite to everyone that is rude to you . Except Cops& Judges .Your Teachers Too ! |
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Re: The Art of Standing Up to Adults
So, you're saying that cops, judges, and teachers automatically get clean slates? There are ways to stand up to all of them--that does not include flipping every swear word in the book. You can always report the behavior of cops (though I doubt anything is done x.x) or contest a ticket in court. As far as teachers go, I'm a great student and I've had very few problems with them. If I feel that I haven't done anything wrong, and I've been patient and polite, I'm not going to sit around and be a punching bag. One way or another, I'll make it clear that I'm unhappy with the treatment. |
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Re: The Art of Standing Up to Adults
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You're right, Puff. No individual, no matter who they are, has the right to treat you like a punching bag. Never judge a book by it's cover. Always show respect, have the best intent in mind, and remember diversity. From what I've read in your postings, this old fart thinks you'll go far!
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Re: The Art of Standing Up to Adults
I think every age group gets discriminated upon, especially the teens. I've witnessed it myself in a department store. A young girl was waiting to pay for her purchase and the worker was waiting on everyone but her (the checkout was in a circle, the old Hudson's). I couldn't believe it, I watched in disbelief. The young girl was quite humble and didnt' say anything, but I did. I said this girl has been waiting, she certainally is next. Gosh, that really ticked me off. We're all people, we all were once children, young adults and adults, and someday a senior citizen (hopefully). Everyone should be treated with respect. |
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